Having fun on your date is important
Sometimes with the busyness of life and the stress of functioning day to day, we forget how to have fun. The kids need care, the bills need paying and there is always some type of shopping to do. It may seem like a date is just another thing on your to do list for the night. But wait! You can’t have that attitude going in or it will completely ruin the whole point of the date in the first place – which is to have fun!
For a busy, type A person, settling down and having fun might be a hard thing to do. Relaxing just isn’t always in the cards for you. But if you want to be successful in dating, then you really need to let yourself unwind, relax and have fun. Because the person on the other end of the date will have a sense if you are having fun or not. If you aren’t, chances are they aren’t either and won’t want to continue with the date, let alone suffer through a second one.
Before you go on your date, eliminate the technology. Don’t allow texts, phones calls or business get in the way. Turn it off and focus on the date. Tell yourself you will have fun and make it fun for the other person. If nothing else, you will get to meet a new person or perhaps at least have one more friend. Keep an open mind and make the night enjoyable, because you are entitled to have fun in your life and deserve a few nights off to relax.
Knowing your type before choosing a date
Every person inwardly cringes when they hear a friend say they want to set them up on a blind date. Really? Without ever seeing that person, can you honestly say you even want to try? Does your friend know your type well enough to set you up on a date? How do you even know what your type is if you haven’t found success in finding that person? Think back to your last few dates or relationships and you might be surprised to discover what things they did or did not have in common with each other.
You might actually have a type without realizing it. Do you find yourself attracted to a person that has the same shade hair color each time? No matter how many times you have tried to date someone with a different hair color, do you always end up back with the same old color you enjoy? Do you prefer tall or short? Petite or curvy? Athletic or muscular? Pay attention to what attracts you initially and see if you can spot a pattern.
What are your dislikes? Just about every person has qualities they like and ones they detest. So these qualities can fit in to a type as well. For example, you don’t like people who are vain, rude or ignorant. But you prefer generous, funny people. Those are types to try and look for. Hang out in areas where generous people might thrive, like a shelter or a volunteer agency. Star away from salons where people are always focusing on their looks if you don’t like high-maintenance, vain people.